Maxwell Michael Corey

We welcomed baby Max at 8 a.m. on January 5. He was 8 pounds 1 ounce and 20.5 inches long. I wanted to share his birth story because it turned out so differently than what I had pictured and planned for. Despite the fact that I had been feeling like I was going to give birth for about 2 weeks, he had to be coaxed out in the end. I guess he just really likes to be cozy. We have not stopped snuggling him since he was born!

If you’re squeamish you might want to skip this part, but I feel like it’s important to include everything. So, at my 39-week appointment my doctor said that everything looked great and I was basically ready to have the baby. I had been feeling a lot of contractions and I suspected I would go into labor any time. So when she offered to strip my membranes to get things going, I said yes. The next day I lost my mucus plug, so I figured that would be the start of labor. Nope! Not only did it not work, my contractions pretty much completely stopped.

I should mention that this whole time my main concern was having a too-fast labor and not being able to get to the hospital in time. I feel like everyone I talked to with a second baby mentioned the speed. I was supposed to have 2 doses of antibiotics during labor for a positive strep B test, so I thought I might not be able to do that. My reference point was Harper’s birth, since everything happened so fast after my water broke.


Past 40 weeks and feeling like I was out of room!

So when I went to my 40 week appointment at 40 weeks and 5 days with no signs of labor, I suspected that my doctor was going to suggest induction. With my age, gestational diabetes diagnosis and the strep B thing, I knew I would be pushing it to go past 41 weeks. So I thought, maybe by Friday. But she said she recommended induction by Wednesday. And not only that, but she was working at the hospital that night (Monday), so we could actually go in that night for the induction. And that would be the only way to guarantee that I would have her as my doctor. Mike and I talked it over, and even though we were kind of freaked out to go that soon, we felt it was time. I didn’t think 2 days would make much of a difference. So we went home, had a nice dinner, and then headed back to the hospital at 8 p.m.

The nurse they gave me was really wacky — interesting in sort of a Bay Area middle-aged hippie way. But very awkward. She was nice, but she took forever to do all the paperwork and then missed getting my IV in twice. So by the time they gave me the Miso pill it was like 9:45. Side note: I couldn’t believe how tiny this pill was that was going to make me have a baby, and they cut it in half!


Realized later that this bruise was from the missed IVs.

Anyway, we hung out and waited for things to get going, which they did, probably around 1 a.m. By then I had a different nurse, who was super nice and supportive of our intention to avoid pain meds. But I was getting so annoyed at being hooked up to all the monitors, plus the IV for strep B antibiotics. It seemed like every time I moved a little, one of them slipped and someone would come in to fix it. If the baby’s heart rate dipped at all they wanted me to also wear oxygen and it just made me paranoid that they would end up pushing me to get a C-section or something. That part made me really long for laboring at home naturally.

By 2 a.m. they said my contractions were regular enough that I could forego another dose of Miso, so I just kept laboring. I used the birth ball a lot — it was awesome. By early morning the contractions were incredibly strong and close together and I was having a really hard time getting through them. I couldn’t even sit on the ball anymore, I had to stand up and lean on Mike. I was so ready to give up, I thought I must be going through transition. But my water hadn’t broken. With Harper, that was the thing that made everything change in a hurry, so I was desperate for that. I knew I had orders for pain medication at the ready and I was seriously starting to think I would need them, but Mike was very encouraging about the fact that I had done this before and I was going to get through it. I just did not experience that intensity level with Harper’s birth. Hers was WAY longer, but I was able to handle it better.

When my doctor came in at 7 a.m. to tell me she had to leave because her shift was over, I was bummed. But honestly I didn’t care who delivered the baby as long as he came out ASAP! She said I was only 5 cm dilated but seemed to be transitioning. She offered to break my water and I said definitely, yes. She said, I think you’ll have a baby by 10 a.m. At first I thought she had said 8:10 and we all laughed about that. But actually I knew it would be sooner than 10. Pretty much as soon as my doctor left, the contractions were just unbearably strong and I was a total mess. Lots of tears and saying “I can’t do this” and that sort of thing. Thankfully the crazier things got, the more calm Mike got. And the nurse helping me at the time had been there for 37 years, so she was cool as a cucumber. I did not think I could get through it, but before long my body was basically pushing the baby out. It didn’t take long at all before he was crowning and they were rushing in the next doctor. She barely got her gloves on before Max came out at 8 a.m. Maybe in 2-3 pushes. I can’t tell you the relief at that moment.

When Harper was born they took her to be checked, weighed and cleaned right away. But with Max they left him on my chest for a good long time. I really appreciated that.


I think our nurse had a little bit of photojournalist in her – I don’t even remember her taking these pictures.


Grammie meeting Max for the first time.

On reflection, I think my body reacted very strongly to the Miso and gave me contractions that were much more powerful and closer together than with natural labor. I’m not sure it was totally worth it to have no pain meds with that kind of pain. But at least it was over quickly. I still think the best way to labor with a healthy pregnancy is probably home birth. No monitors, no pressure to have interventions that pile up. Just trust in the process. But I’m at peace with this birth. We had a healthy boy in just a few hours.

The other great thing has been how much easier the last few days have been this time around. We were able to leave the hospital a day early, and they hardly bothered us at all while we were recovering. With Harper’s hospital stay, they were constantly interrupting us and we got no rest. Max did cry pretty much all night that first night in the hospital, but that’s how we learned he is a baby that LOVES to be held.

It felt like a miracle when he latched on to nurse pretty much right away. I have some of the same struggles with breastfeeding him as I did with Harper, but for the most part he’s eating great and gaining weight. He didn’t have jaundice and have to be under the lights like Harper. He seems to be a little more chill, but I think his personality is still a big question mark. He sure is a cutie pie, though. I just keep marveling at how tiny and soft he is. I know these moments will be gone so soon, so I am really trying to soak them up.

I was pretty worried about how Harper would react to Max, but she has been such a great big sister. As I suspected, she really wants to help when we are changing his diaper or putting him in his rocker. Sometimes 3-year-old help is not the most helpful, but we indulge her.

Of course my hormones are raging, but it’s very emotional seeing these two together. Our family does feel a lot more complete and it’s just nice to feel like so many of the things I wanted in life have come to fruition. Welcome, Max!

Waiting for baby


Shopping in the city at 37 weeks.

I have 9 days until my due date. Single digits now.

It’s a very strange place to be in…just waiting for your whole life to change. I’m glad I stopped working so early. I still have a couple orders to fulfill here and there, but mostly I can relax and do holiday-related things. Or take a nap.

I realized that my holiday seasons are always insanely hectic because I am either prepping for craft shows or taking a big trip, or both. It’s nice to just chill and bake cookies.

Harper has been super clingy lately, but I can’t tell if it’s because she knows she’s about to lose a lot of my attention or because she is almost 3. She’s in a big “mommy do it” phase. But it’s usually about some mundane thing that seems more about control than anything else. I am no expert with this stuff. I’m just trying to love on her an extra lot. She completely exhausts me sometimes, but she is such an extraordinary little person. It’s so hard to imagine what her little brother will be like. I’m dying to know!

My sister arrives on Thursday. In a perfect world, the baby will come while she’s here. But we all know their timing isn’t perfect!

Super bulky cowl

If you’re looking for a project that works up quickly (a la the arm-knit cowl), try this one. I can have one of these babies finished in half an hour!

At first this project came up out of necessity — my other cowl patterns were just taking too long to make, especially when I needed to make lots of them for shows. But now I think I would make this cowl anyway, just because it is so cute and so warm.

Super bulky cowl

Materials

• 4 skeins Lion Brand wool-ease thick and quick yarn in navy (or your favorite color). *Note: 2 skeins is actually just the right amount for this cowl, but you will have to separate them into 4 equal parts to make the cowl.
Other super bulky weight yarns would also work great for this.

• Size US 50/25 mm knitting needles (the biggest they have, baby)

• yarn needle to weave in ends

Instructions

Start by holding 4 strands of yarn together and tying a knot in the end. Leave a few inches of tail and then cast on 6 stitches.

Work in garter stitch (knitting every row) until the piece measures approximately 48 inches. Bind off, leaving about 12 inches of tail to sew up the seam.

Tie another knot on the end of the tail and then use it to seam the two ends of the cowl together. I usually just do this part with my hands. When you’re done, you can cut off the knots from both tails and then use the yarn needle to weave any remaining ends into the cowl. I usually make a few knots just so the seam is nice and secure. Then snip off any extra yarn.

The garter stitch pattern makes this cowl nice and stretchy, so you can wear it doubled up or let it hang longer like a scarf. 

Cozy knit reversible cowl

Here’s another freebie pattern that I absolutely love for fall and winter. This cowl is super warm and cozy, and the bonus is that it is ribbed on one side and bobbly on the other. You can wear it long like a scarf, or doubled up around your neck. Or you can even pull it over your head like a hood or lower on your shoulders like a shawl.

Cozy knit reversible cowl

Materials

• 3 skeins Lion Brand Wool-Ease Thick and Quick yarn in cranberry (or your favorite color)
Other super bulky yarns would work great for this, too.

• Size US 15/10 mm straight knitting needles

• Yarn needle to sew up the seam

Instructions

Cast on 32 stitches.
Row 1: K1P1 across.
Row 2: Knit.
Repeat these two rows until the piece measures 52 inches. Bind off on last knit row, leaving a long tail to sew up the seam.

With right sides facing and using the long tail of yarn, sew up the seam using mattress stitch or your favorite seaming stitch. Weave in any ends and turn the piece right-side-out.

*You could also just leave the piece as a scarf and make it longer or shorter. Up to you!

Stripey baby leg warmers

Unfortunately, the now-defunct Goodsmiths site has finally come down. So a lot of my blog projects that had been published there have disappeared. I’m not going to try to save all of them, but I would like to re-post some patterns that I have posted on Ravelry, and add some new ones. 

I’m gonna start with this baby leg warmer pattern because I enjoyed making these so much for Harper when she was a baby. 

They’re made with a fuzzy acrylic yarn that is machine washable and comes in a lot of great colors. You can knit them up plain or go with the stripe sequence I came up with. And if you like that yarn, you can also get my pattern for stretchy leg warmers that will grow with your kiddo from my Etsy pattern shop

Stripey baby leg warmers
sized for 0-3 months
make 2

Materials:

Lion Brand Jiffy yarn in colors: grape (A), country green (B), silver heather (C), and dark grey heather (D), (or any combination of 4 colors you like)

• Size 10.5 straight knitting needles

• Yarn needle to sew up seams

Instructions:

Cast on 18 stitches, leaving a 14-inch tail so you can sew up the seam at the end. Using a stockinette pattern (knit one row, purl one row), follow this stripe sequence:

5 rows A

4 rows B

2 rows C

3 rows D

2 rows A

3 rows C

1 row B

4 rows D

3 rows A

2 rows C

Bind off on your last row of C. Using your yarn needle, weave in any loose strings to the back side of the piece and snip off the ends. You can actually use these ends to carefully sew up the seam, matching the colors on each side. But if you don’t have the patience for that (half the time I don’t!), you can just use the long tail from the beginning of your work to sew up the seam. 

To make plain leg warmers, follow these instructions. You will only need one skein per pair. 

0-3 months 
Cast on 18 stitches. Knit in stockinette pattern until piece measures  7 inches. Bind off. 

3-6 months
Cast on 20 stitches. Knit in stockinette pattern until piece measures 8 inches. Bind off. 

6-12 months
Cast on 22 stitches. Knit in stockinette pattern until piece measures 9 inches. Bind off. 

Finishing

With right sides facing, use the long tail of yarn you left at the beginning of the piece to sew a seam all the way up to the top. You can use mattress stitch, or your favorite seaming stitch. Then snip off any extra yarn and turn the leg warmer right-side-out. Repeat with the second one. 

*If you don’t want a seam, you can always knit with DPNs or a magic loop instead. 

Main bathroom reveal

Our last major project on the house is done! Well, the last project on round 1 of home remodeling. We could really use some better kitchen cabinets and central heat, but we knew we probably wouldn’t be able to get to those things for a while. So we set aside enough money to do a few major projects, and now they are ALL DONE. Hallelujah!

The bathroom was a problem for a lot of reasons. First, it was butt ugly. After bringing the rest of the house out of the ’80s (see mom’s bathroom remodel), the dated bathroom just looked awful.

The linoleum was ugly and stained. It just had to go. It also seemed like the floor was uneven, because water from the faux marble sink was always dripping onto the floor.


Ughhh.

The previous owners had replaced the mirror cabinet and light fixture. However, they picked new ones that are the opposite of what we would have picked. The 3-mirror cabinet was always sticking out because the shelves were too tiny to hold much of anything. We had to keep way too many things on the sink because they just didn’t fit anywhere else. And really, when your bathroom is that ugly, you don’t fret too much about clutter.

The shower was not actually that bad. I sort of enjoyed that the faux marble walls didn’t have grout to get all moldy. But when we took off the shower doors (I can’t stand shower doors!), it left some marks and scrapes on the walls and tub. The fixtures were also pretty old and grimy, and the drain plug didn’t work correctly.


The tub edge.

The other super weird thing was the light switch situation. There were two switches at different heights for the light and fan. The fan switch was in the place that seemed more appropriate for the light switch. So we really wanted to get them re-wired so that they were on a double switch in a place that made sense. The fan was also super loud.

Then there was the toilet that used about 6 gallons per flush. The one we put in mom’s bathroom uses .8 gallons per flush. So yeah, we wanted something a leetle more efficient. (With the drought, something like that really does make a huge difference).

At first I thought we could get away with just tearing out the linoleum and the toilet, sink cabinet and mirror, and then maybe refinishing the tub. But eventually it made more sense to tear all of it out and start from scratch. There were a couple of imperfections in the drywall that made us concerned for what was underneath. So, better safe than sorry.

Side note: Do you watch “Renovation Realities”? We love that show. And what you learn from watching it is that something, or a few somethings, will always go wrong and cost you extra money and time. Sigh.

So, when Mike tore out the drywall, he did find some issues. The subfloor had some damage and there was a good-sized hole underneath. So, new subfloor.


Check out how the wood connects on the right. Face palm. 

Then there was a stud that had been cut and repaired in a completely unsafe way. When he went to replace it, Mike cut a hole in the water pipe nearby, so we had to pay a plumber to fix that. While she was there, we also had her make sure all the sink pipes would work when went to put that in.

Another issue: there was no insulation in any of the walls. So while we had the walls off we put some in the outside wall.

And then when he went to install the shower fixture, Mike realized that the pipes there were not going to match up. So, we had to call another plumber to bring that up to date.


New pipes!

After ALL that was taken care of, we were able to put the walls back up. Mike enlisted a friend for help since I am not in any kind of shape to do drywall. Another side note: why is it purple?


Without a light, the bathroom was dark and scary for a while.

Once the walls were up, we could tackle the tile. As Mike learned from the first bathroom, tile is not actually that hard as DIY projects go. The worst part is the prep — cutting all the tiles or tile sheets to fit around corners and such. We did have to buy a tile saw, but that wasn’t too expensive. Mike laid all the tiles for the floor and shower and then I came in and did the grout.


We decided to put subway tiles all the way to the top of the shower.  So much better!

It was a lot of work for a super pregnant lady, but I think it turned out great.

I also painted the walls, the same shade of blue/gray that we used in mom’s bathroom. We just wanted everything to look clean and simple. Mike had to tackle the very smelly job of refinishing the tub since it would not be good for me to inhale epoxy. He got a respirator and it was really only bad for one day.

Once everything was dry and the grout sealed, we could put the bathroom back together.

We used the Hemnes furniture from IKEA for the cabinet and mirror. The mirror cabinet is huge, but it actually holds everything with room to spare.

The shallow sink also allows for more storage underneath. And Harper’s little stool fits underneath the sink, which is nice because the bathroom is pretty small.

The fan we put in the ceiling is so cool. It’s about as silent as a Prius and it comes on automatically when it detects humidity. The light fixture has turned out to be a little small for the room, but that would be easy to replace if we wanted to. IKEA makes a 5-light version.

The toilet has worked great so far. On a rare occasion you might have to flush twice, but even if you do, you’re still only using 1.6 gallons. Oh, and Mike got a super fancy toilet seat that has a slow-close feature and a built-in child seat. So, no more Elmo potty ring taking up space. 

We decided to kind of hide the towel bars behind the door. With four of us using the bathroom, it can look pretty messy, but this tidies it up.

I can’t tell you how wonderful it is to walk past the bathroom and see it looking so good. It finally matches the rest of the house! And it was the one thing we really wanted to finish so that we could concentrate on what really matters — our new kiddo!

*I finally had a chance to go over all our receipts and figure out the cost for this project. It came out to about $3,850. The IKEA furniture and light fixture came to about $600. We had to pay the plumbers $765. The toilet and fancy seat were about $250. Each set of tile was around $400. So the rest was for drywall, mud, paint, grout, various supplies and some new tools we had to buy. At least with the tools we can use them again for future projects. The bathroom is fairly small, but I think for a complete remodel (down to the studs and subfloor), we did really well. And with the way houses have been selling in this neighborhood, I’m sure we’ll see a return on our investment. 

Refinished table and chairs

On the long list of things I’m thankful for this year is our beautiful refinished midcentury table and chairs. I’m excited to share how we transformed a pretty broken down set into something that looks like it came out of a West Elm catalog (and for a fraction of the cost).

So, way back in January, I think, we found this dining room set at the Cordelia Junction antique mall. It was covered in dishes, but I could see how cool it looked underneath. Although the set appeared to be missing a chair with arms and one without, it had all the other pieces, including two table leaves. And it was exactly the midcentury style I’d been hoping to find. So at $125 with 20% off, we felt like it was a deal not to be missed. Into the car it went.

The table itself was pretty bowed in the center and a little wobbly.

It also had quite a bit of damage to the surface and it was a pretty blah color.

Mike started by repairing the wood so that the table would be nice and flat and more sturdy. Then came the sanding part, which was not easy. Every curvy arm, nook and cranny of those chairs had to be sanded rough and then fine. We have very little free time these days, so he worked on it when he could. Eventually, all the parts were ready to be stained.

The staining went pretty quickly. We chose something darker, and a little more cherry colored. We felt it went with the rest of our furniture better.

Then we came to the final stages. While Mike was applying several coats of the clear finish, I decided to replace the nasty fabric on all the chair seats.

It took forever to get the fabric off the first seat, but the rest came off pretty easily. I used a hammer to pull out a lot of the staples and mostly just ripped the rest of the fabric off.

The seats had a layer of soft material underneath, but I added another layer of batting just to make them a little softer. Then I cut a square of (much more attractive) fabric around each seat and stapled it on.

It’s a little tricky to fold the fabric around the rounded corners, but overall it’s super easy. When in doubt, add more staples!

I thought the seats looked about 1000 times better when they were done.

Unfortunately, just as Mike was about to finish all the clear coats on the table and chairs, we had to get started on our bathroom remodel. So the table had to be put on hold for another 2 months. And just this week we finished the bathroom (more on that in another post) and so we could finish the table.

Doesn’t it look amazing? It’s just exactly what I wanted for that space, and I think it turned out so well. I’m glad we didn’t pay a huge amount of money for it, since it will be getting a lot of use by little ones in the next few years. I think with the initial cost, the sandpaper, stain, clear finish, batting and fabric, we probably came in less than $300. This one at West Elm is $600 plus $350 per chair.

Oh, and I forgot to mention that my mom had found some midcentury chairs out on the curb that we decided to incorporate into the set so we’d have 6 chairs. I covered those seats in matching fabric, and they fit in amazingly well. I think this project was meant to be!

Some dietary changes

I can’t believe I’ve already passed the 7 months pregnant mark. The rest of the pregnancy has seemed to move pretty slowly and somewhat uncomfortably. But now I actually feel pretty good and time is racing by. One of the reasons I feel better (I think) is that I’m eating differently now. I started this pregnancy 20 pounds heavier than with Harper and was pretty steadily gaining a pound a week, which felt like too much. With it being a lot warmer this time around, I had constant swollen cankles and just felt huge and puffy. So I decided it might help to start cutting carbs out of my diet.

Breakfast and lunch turned out to be a breeze, but most of my dinner recipes that I love to cook have some carbs. So I decided not to mess with dinner much. I switched from cereal or muffins to omelets for breakfast and then a lot of cottage cheese, salads, apples with peanut butter and that sort of thing during the day. The great thing about a low-carb diet is that it’s not a low-fat diet. You can have all the bacon, avocados and ranch dressing you want. So you get to enjoy these really satisfying foods. 

I noticed right away that the weight gain really eased up, even though I was in the third trimester, when the baby gains the most weight. I had just about outgrown all my maternity clothes, but some of them started to fit a little looser. And I just felt better during the day. I had felt so tired the past few months, but suddenly I had more energy. 

So, when all seemed to be going really well, I failed my glucose test. Just barely. It was kind of strange. They take blood 3 times, and only my fasting score was slightly over the limit. But it was enough to qualify me for the “Sweet Success” program they give to moms with gestational diabetes. At first I was PISSED. Mom was out of town and we had just started remodeling our bathroom, so it was already a super stressful time. I just didn’t need anything else on top of it all. But once I took the class where they teach you about what to eat and how to test your blood (4 times a day, eek), I got kind of into it. It’s really fascinating to see how your blood sugar fluctuates throughout the day and how your stress level or exercise can affect the numbers. Last week I got sick and my numbers spiked the highest they’d ever been. I’ve learned so much. So I am trying to turn a negative into a positive. 

The plus side on the diet part is that it’s darn similar to what I had just started doing. The emphasis is on eating more protein and fewer carbs. You still get to eat carbs, but you really have to restrict sugar. And that includes things that we are traditionally taught are healthy, like fruits, milk and yogurt. Obviously, desserts are a no-no. That’s the part that stung. But again, now that I’m not having them, I feel a lot better. For my birthday I did splurge and make lava cakes with vanilla ice cream (I figured a single-serving cake would be better than a whole huge one). And the next day I felt ravenous for something sugary. Amazingly I did not buy a single bag of Halloween candy! We have so few trick-or-treaters anyway that we decided to just skip it this year, and I’m glad. 

I’m trying to shop for more yummy snack foods, and I’m finding that there are a lot of great high-protein choices out there. Cheese sticks, cocoa dusted nuts (which come in 100-calorie packs), organic hummus from Target, cream cheese on brown rice thins — those have all been favorites lately. I got some almond milk so I can have that instead of regular milk in smoothies. I’m really trying to steer away from processed stuff when I do have carbs. I LOVE fruit, so I’m eating apples, pears and bananas when I can. The key is to always have them with a protein. I’ve made some incredible salads. And I really am not a salad person! But when you can pack them with hard boiled eggs, bacon, cheese crumbles, tomatoes, and have them with a rich dressing, they don’t seem so bad. 

I don’t see myself giving up my beloved baked goods altogether. But this has really shown me that I can live without them a lot of the time and still eat really well. I think I can continue on a similar diet once the baby is born and feel a lot better than I did with Harper. I’m still working on the exercise part. It seems like the first thing to go when I’m busy or stressed, but I see now that it has to be part of my lifestyle. 

Unfortunately, my fasting scores are still a little high. So we’ll see if they put me on any medication for the next 8 weeks. Hopefully it will return to normal after the baby’s born. 

If you’re looking for a great low-carb recipe, I can highly recommend these chicken satay lettuce wraps we had the other night. I don’t consider myself a lettuce wrap type of person either, but these were fantastic. Other things that are good this time of year: tortilla soup, beef stew, chili and roast chicken. Apparently Mexican street tacos are great because they come on thin corn tortillas, and some places give you a ton of meat. So I’ve been on the taco diet when we go out. I’ve discovered some really good al pastor at local restaurants. 

I’m sure it will be a challenge to make it through the 8 most holiday-filled weeks of the year on a low-sugar diet, but I feel pretty good about it. 

Best baby gifts, IMHO

Given the incredible baby boom among my friends and family lately, I have been thinking a lot about the best and most useful kinds of gifts you can get for a new parent, especially a first-time one. When I think about all the stuff we’ve acquired since we had Harper it’s pretty overwhelming. But only a few things have been truly useful over and over again.

This list represents super helpful universal gifts that you could give someone, even that person who already has everything. Most are really affordable and some may be life-changing!

• Carter’s jersey baby blankets (top left)
The super popular Aden and Anais muslin swaddle blankets are great, but we ended up using these jersey blankets a lot more, and still do. They come in really cute designs and you can usually find them for a reasonable price at places like Marshall’s and Burlington Coat Factory.

• IKEA bath towel
It has the worst name ever — Stanka — but this towel is cute, gender neutral and super thick considering its $8 price tag.

• Carter’s wash cloths
These are the perfect combination of soft, thin and adorable. Carter’s also makes a discounted version for Target stores.

• Burt’s Bees baby shampoo and body wash
I love this one because it’s gentle and smells great. We use it for bubble bath, too. One bottle lasts a looong time.

• Bath toy set
Bath toys are also a common gift, but I absolutely loved the Very Hungry Caterpillar set. It comes with a cute little book and some squirty animals. So sweet!

Honest Company wipe travel packs
We did the Honest bundle for a while, and in the end it was more than we needed to buy regularly. But it helped me discover these handy travel packs of wipes, which I have shoved in every diaper bag, car pocket and purse I have. They’re also available for $1 each at Target now.

• Planet wise wet bags
These are an absolute must! And it doesn’t hurt to have a few in different sizes. We used them for cloth diapers when we were out and about, and also as a diaper pail for the cloth ones at home. They’re great for holding peed-on clothes during potty training. We probably washed our diaper pail one about 200 times and it’s still going!

• Triple paste ointment
We had very few issues with diaper rash until one period when we could not find anything to help heal a rash that lasted for weeks. We even had a prescription cream! Finally another mom told me about Triple Paste. It’s expensive, about $20 a jar, but it was the only thing that worked for us. I’m a huge fan now.

• Forehead thermometer
Another thing I didn’t know existed until I had a kid. You do not want to mess around with trying to get a temperature from a kid’s underarm or butt when they’re feverish and squirmy. This works with one firm swipe across the forehead. We use it for ourselves now!

Vibrating teether
This feels so good on their gums when they’re teething. The freezer ones are a pain and they didn’t work for us anyway. 

Aveeno baby sunscreen
This sunscreen turned out to be my favorite. A lot of the eco-friendly ones are hard to rub in or leave a chalky residue. But this one goes on really smooth (a plus with a wiggly baby). It’s also really nice to have a sunscreen stick in your purse or diaper bag, just in case. 

• Baby Bjorn or any rubberized bib
Bibs are a dime a dozen as far as shower gifts go. I have a huge pile of them I’ve never used. But these genius bibs with the little trough at the bottom are amazing. They catch all the food goo and then you can wash them out in just a few seconds. 

Placemat for restaurants
This $5 investment will save you so many headaches when you go out to eat. It folds up pretty small in a diaper bag and then you just roll it out on the table and let the kid make a mess on it. It has raised edges to catch any goop. 

• Other feeding items:
-Lifefactory glass bottles with sippy caps – We love that these come with a protective sleeve. And when your kid ages out of breastmilk, you can fill the bottles with something else and use the sippy caps instead of nipples. 
-Evenflo old-school glass bottles – If you’re bothered by the plastic bottles that come with a Medela breast pump, you can screw these into the pump instead. 
-Mesh feeders – These are perfect for baby’s first solid foods. You might need a few once they get teeth!
-Snack catchers – I was so excited to discover these. They cut way down on spilled goldfish and Cheerios. 
-plastic silverware – We learned that you can never have too many spoons, so just get a whole bunch so they’ll last you a while. IKEA has a nice larger set for toddlers. 
-BabyBjorn no-spill cups – wish I’d known about these sooner.

Sun hat with a chin strap
Maybe that sounds obvious, but you definitely don’t want yours to blow away. And you’ll find yourself needing that sun hat a lot if you have a summer baby. 

• Robeez soft shoes
These were the shoes that helped Harper learn to walk and they were wonderful. They slip on over chubby feet and they come in all sorts of adorable designs. Don’t bother getting anything less than a 6-12 month size. They are perfect for that new-walking window of time.

• Slim-fit pajamas with zippers
Do not make the mistake of getting tons of pajamas with snaps. That is such a pain! Always go with zip pajamas. Carter’s makes snug fit pajamas that we really liked. Target’s Circo brand also sells them up to 12 months, I think. And of course if you can afford Hanna Andersson pjs, go for it. 

Hopefully that gives you some ideas next time you need to buy a gift. It’s also a good reminder for myself, now that we’ll have a baby again soon. There are SO MANY products to wade through. It really helps to focus on the things you actually need. 

*More on this topic: useful and not-so-useful items and helpful newborn stuff. Those are more for planning your own registry. 

Girls weekend in Santa Rosa

About a year ago Erin and I were planning a girls weekend in wine country when I realized that my grandma’s funeral was scheduled for the same weekend. Needless to say I would much rather have had a vacation than travelled to Kansas with a toddler for such a sad occasion. But I wouldn’t have missed saying goodbye to my grandmother, and so we had to reschedule. We finally got our trip pulled together, and it was so amazing!

I needed this trip so badly. Life is stressful and exhausting lately, and these trips (even the shortest ones) are so restorative. We got an airbnb guesthouse in Santa Rosa for a very reasonable price, and then we set aside some money for food and pampering. It really helps to have a best friend with experience as an event planner. I pretty much just had to show up and everything was ready to go.


The back yard where we stayed, complete with bubbling fountain.


This gorgeous Victorian was right across the street AND it had an Airstream. I am clearly living in the wrong place.

Our first food stop in the area was the Squeeze Inn in Napa. I have been wanting to try a Squeezeburger for ages! It’s basically a classic California burger topped with so much cheddar cheese that it forms a “cheese skirt” you have to peel off and eat. It was really good, and since I couldn’t finish mine I got to keep eating it all weekend.


Squeezeburgers.

That night we walked around downtown Santa Rosa and found this cute magician-themed ice cream shop. It was huge and very kid-friendly, the kind of place I wish we had in our neighborhood. I had a sundae made with sugar cookie ice cream that was as good as it sounds.

The next morning we decided to try the Naked Pig for breakfast. Thankfully, a friend had just posted on Facebook about going there, so I wanted to try it. I had to take this picture so that you could see how this farm-to-table restaurant is situated in the parking lot across from a garage. Kind of funny.

But oh man was this little place a winner. They have these homemade biscuits served with butter and honey that certainly rival any I’ve ever made. And although our food was pretty simple, you could tell they pay attention to every single ingredient. The bacon tasted like maple syrup and the tomatoes in Erin’s frittata looked just like the ones in my garden.

It was so good we actually went back for breakfast the next day. I had to try the bacon waffle, which was SO good. It was light and crispy and just crammed full of bacon.

After that we were ready for pampering. We got hour-long massages. I was so excited that the pillow arrangement allowed me to lay on my stomach. I haven’t done that in months! After that we got a taco lunch and picked up some beer from Russian River Brewing. None for me, but Erin and Mike are big fans.

Then it was onto more pampering! We got the world’s most affordable mani-pedis at Sea Spa. The older lady who did my toes was obsessed with my baby belly. By the end of the appointment she was giving me hugs.

After that we were feeling like we needed to get out and explore the outdoors a little. So we drove all the way out to the Sonoma coast. It was about 20 degrees cooler out there, with such a pretty view.

Then we decided to head back to Guerneville (note to self, stay in this cute area sometime!) to see the Armstrong Redwoods park. I had no idea this beautiful place was up there, but I will definitely be going back.

It has the perfect set of easy trails through an amazing redwood canopy. As soon as I get to a place like that, my blood pressure drops 20 points and I am just so restored.

After that very full day we wanted something good to eat. We had the hardest time deciding on a restaurant. At first we wanted Indian or Himalayan, but there are just so many restaurants to choose from. So somehow we landed on Belly, which is sort of a gastropub. We were able to walk there from our airbnb place and we got seated right away. They have a lot of small plates that are good for sharing so we went kind of crazy trying them all. And they were all so good I didn’t even take pictures.

We had chorizo with brussels sprouts, mac ‘n cheese with sun-dried tomatoes and spinach, a wedge salad and then the surprise of the night, corned beef tacos. We kind of rolled the dice on those, but they were so much better than anything I could have pictured. They kind of crisped the meat like carnitas, and then served it with a cream sauce and cabbage (St. Patrick’s Day alternative meal next year?). We actually didn’t even eat the guacamole it came with because the tacos were already so flavorful. After that we were in total bliss and about to burst. But then we saw the table next to us order this incredible looking chocolate mousse served on a wood slab with whipped cream and berries. So yeah, we had to have that too. We ended up taking so much food home.


When we got back, Harper couldn’t get enough of her “auntie Erin.”

All in all I’d say we crammed in just about as much enjoyable stuff as you possibly could in two days. And yet it still seemed incredibly relaxing. I cannot wait to do something like this again!